Froo has a lot of friends here (including me) because in general she’s an intelligent, well-spoken person with a good heart. She does bite if she feels she’s being attacked, though, and I think that’s what you two initially ran into. You’ve toned the confrontational attitude down some since you first started posting, and I respect that; I really think that if the two of you could step back and try to discuss something without namecalling and snarling you’d have some good discussions. But that’s up to the two of you.

I hear your point, believe me. And I realize that I’m immediately combative when it comes to froo. But — and not that this is an excuse — when I first showed up, she was one of the regulars who started immediately attacking me, first as a wingman, then on her own. Since then, it’s just been lies, accusations, and escalation; I can’t remember the last time we spoke civilly. I guess I feel like she’s not posting to discuss, just to hate, and I definitely react to that.

After all, she was trying to say that I called her that,

I got that she was making the implication that you regarded her as acting in that manner, rather than that you used that specific term; however, I can see where you’d feel like she was ascribing an action to you that you hadn’t committed.

I’m glad we can talk about this calmly, by the way, Dhoti.

But more than that, I still maintain she was trying to deflect those racial connotations onto me. After all, she was trying to say that I called her that, not that she felt she was that. It’s the third-person reference that’s really the problem.

So no, to be truthful, I’m not saying it’s incontrovertible, though I do think it speaks for itself. But I do think that this “you never back things up” meme — which, oddly enough, froo was one of the people who pushed originally to try to shut me up — needs to be called out.

See how that’s different? My opinion on *froo*, not the *link*, was formed after seeing her comments.

The older links, before I was around, suggest that it’s part of a pattern — if she can’t, or doesn’t want to, respond, she breaks out the term. (And not just the n-word — specifically, the “house n-word” term.)

I’d also point out her “massa” talk from my first link — that was before she dropped the bomb on me, but again, she was trying to force on me the stereotype that that’s how I saw her.

“Dhoti says:
June 16, 2009 at 6:30 am

Froo, noted racist, posting an image link about clothing choices for a black man? This can only end in tears.

I’m afraid I’ll get arrested for even clicking on it…so no thanks, hon.”

Perhaps a better question would be whether you can pinpoint anything, other than the self-referential use of one word, that would indicate a racist viewpoint? Unless of course that’s your sole basis for the statement, in which case I suppose we’ll have to agree to disagree.

If the links don’t work for you, try copying and pasting them manually. Or searching for the lol name — visible in the URL — with Google (append site:punditkitchen.com). I’ll assume you’re not just *saying* they don’t work…

The ball’s in your court, mothergoose. I proved what I said. Now, are you going to behave like an adult and retract your blanket accusation, or are you going to slink away and repeat the same trick on some other thread down the road?

Proof? No problem. But by all means, live up to my expectations of you and ignore it. (Until the next time you show up to make an unfounded accusation and ignore the proof, of course.)

Link. Look for froo’s posts at 5:40 pm and 11:41 am. (Is that enough for you to search, or do you need the anchors?)

I’m afraid I’ll get arrested for even clicking on it…so no thanks, hon.